Premature Ejaculation & Erectile Difficulties

Premature ejaculation, or PE, commonly describes ejaculation that occurs sooner than a man would like, together with a feeling of limited choice or control.

Erectile difficulties, or ED, may involve difficulty developing, maintaining or feeling confident in an erection during sexual activity.

These experiences can be influenced by physical, emotional, relational, psychological and nervous-system factors. They should never be treated as a personal failure or a measure of masculinity.

My approach may support greater awareness of the physical, emotional and energetic patterns that influence arousal and sexual response.

Depending on your individual needs, the work may include conscious breathing, nervous-system regulation, mindfulness, pelvic-floor awareness, recognition of different levels of arousal, relaxation, sensitivity, semen retention and sexual-energy circulation.

The purpose is to support a more conscious relationship with the body—not to force an erection, suppress sensation or create pressure to perform.

Sexual response does not exist separately from the rest of the person. Breath, stress, muscular tension, emotions, beliefs, confidence, relationship dynamics, previous experiences and the nervous system may all influence arousal.

Focusing exclusively on lasting longer or maintaining an erection can sometimes increase performance pressure. My approach explores the broader patterns surrounding the symptom while supporting awareness, choice and embodied presence.

No. My work is educational, somatic and complementary. I do not diagnose, treat or cure medical conditions.

The sessions do not replace medical assessment, medication, psychotherapy, physiotherapy or support from another appropriately qualified professional.

Medical assessment is particularly important when symptoms are persistent, painful, unexplained, appeared suddenly or may be connected with medication, circulation, hormones, surgery, injury or another health condition.

Medical assessment and somatic education serve different purposes and may complement one another when appropriately coordinated.

Depending on your needs and the selected offering, the session may explore breath, relaxation, nervous-system regulation, body awareness, pelvic-floor awareness, patterns of tension, sensitivity, arousal levels, semen retention and the circulation of sexual energy.

Personalised recommendations and home practices may also be provided to support integration beyond the session.

Each session follows its own format. The exact sequence and emphasis are adapted to your intention and to the selected offering.

Stress, monitoring, fear of failure and pressure to perform may make it difficult to remain present with sensation. The body may move quickly toward ejaculation, lose arousal or struggle to maintain an erection.

Nervous-system regulation supports the ability to slow down, breathe, notice sensation and respond with greater awareness rather than remaining caught in anxiety or automatic reactions.

Arousal awareness training helps you recognise changes in sensation, tension, breath, energy and intensity as arousal develops.

Rather than noticing arousal only when it has already become overwhelming, you learn to recognise earlier stages and explore different responses through breath, relaxation, movement and attention.

The purpose is not rigid control. It is to develop awareness, choice and a greater capacity to remain present.

The pelvic floor can influence sexual sensation, arousal, erection, ejaculation and patterns of muscular tension.

Some men habitually contract the pelvic area without realising it. Others may have difficulty sensing when the muscles are tense or relaxed.

Pelvic-floor awareness may include learning to recognise tension, reduce unnecessary contraction and coordinate the pelvis with breath and whole-body awareness.

Worrying about lasting long enough, maintaining an erection or satisfying a partner can create a cycle of monitoring and anxiety.

The more attention is directed toward evaluating performance, the more difficult it may become to remain connected with sensation, pleasure, communication and the present moment.

Somatic practice may support a gradual movement away from constant self-evaluation and toward embodied awareness.

Semen retention is the conscious practice of learning to experience, regulate and circulate sexual energy without automatically directing every experience toward ejaculation.

Within my work, it may involve breath, relaxation, pelvic-floor awareness, recognition of arousal levels and learning to distinguish orgasm from ejaculation.

The purpose is not suppression or fear of ejaculation. It is to develop awareness, choice, presence and sensitivity.

Orgasm and ejaculation often occur together, but they are not necessarily the same event.

Ejaculation refers to the release of semen. Orgasm describes a broader experience involving sensation, muscular response, energy, emotion and changes in consciousness.

Tantric practice may explore the possibility of experiencing pleasure and orgasmic sensation without making ejaculation the automatic goal of every experience.

No. My approach considers the whole body, breath, nervous system, emotions, pelvis, energy and patterns of attention.

Genital sensation is relevant, but it is not treated as separate from the rest of the body. The purpose is to expand awareness beyond a narrow focus on erection, ejaculation or performance.

Yes. Lingam Massage is included in every in-person session for men, although its duration and the way it is integrated depend on the format and purpose of the selected offering.

Lingam Massage is approached as conscious and respectful bodywork intended to support relaxation, sensitivity, body awareness, arousal awareness and the release of accumulated tension.

It is not performed as an erotic service, and ejaculation is not the purpose of the practice.

As with every element of the session, consent remains ongoing and you may pause or decline the practice at any time.

Arousal can be a natural body response and does not need to be treated with embarrassment.

The purpose is to notice the response consciously, remain connected with breath and sensation and explore how arousal changes without pressure to perform or move toward release.

Arousal does not change the professional boundaries of the session and does not imply permission for mutual touch.

No. My sessions are not structured around ejaculation or sexual release.

The approach may include semen retention, arousal awareness and practices that support the distinction between orgasm and ejaculation.

The work focuses on presence, sensitivity, nervous-system regulation and the conscious circulation of sexual energy throughout the body.

No responsible promise can be made that PE or ED will be resolved through one session.

A first session may create greater awareness of breath, tension, arousal, pelvic sensation or performance patterns. However, integration usually depends on continued attention and practice.

Physical, medical, psychological or relational factors may also require support from other qualified professionals.

There is no universal number. Each man arrives with a different history, body, nervous system, level of awareness and combination of contributing factors.

After the initial session, I may offer personalised recommendations based on what was observed. You remain free to decide whether you wish to continue.

No. I do not guarantee a cure, erection, orgasm, specific duration of sexual activity or a predetermined result.

The work may support awareness, learning and the development of new practices, but each person’s response and progress are individual.

You may notice greater awareness of breath, tension, pelvic sensations, arousal levels, emotional reactions or automatic performance patterns.

Some men may feel more relaxed or connected with their bodies. Others may simply recognise patterns that were previously unconscious.

Awareness is an important beginning, but it should not be confused with a guaranteed or immediate resolution.

Personalised home practices may be recommended depending on the selected session and your individual needs.

These may include conscious breathing, relaxation, pelvic-floor awareness, mindfulness, body observation, arousal awareness or integration exercises.

Supporting materials such as PDFs, eBooks or videos may also be recommended when appropriate.

You may still begin with an appropriate individual session. The purpose of the initial experience is to develop awareness and understand which practices may be relevant to you.

However, one session should not be approached as a guaranteed solution. Progress may also depend on consistent home practice, medical investigation or support from other professionals.

The work may need to be postponed, adapted or declined when there is an acute medical condition, infection, recent surgery, significant pain, an unexplained physical symptom, intoxication or another circumstance that makes bodywork inappropriate.

Relevant health conditions, injuries, medication and recent procedures must be disclosed before the appointment.

I reserve the right to decline or stop a session when continuing would not feel safe, appropriate or professionally aligned.

You may be invited to share information relevant to your intention, expectations, health, sexual wellbeing and current concerns.

You are not required to disclose every detail of your personal life. You may set boundaries around what you feel ready to discuss.

Information that materially affects safety, suitability or the professional scope of the session should not be withheld.

Nervousness, embarrassment and emotion can be understandable when discussing sexual wellbeing or entering a new embodied experience.

The session begins with conversation, intention and boundaries. You may ask questions, pause or decline a practice at any time.

The purpose is not to judge or pressure you. It is to create an appropriate educational space for awareness and embodiment.

Before attending, you are required to read the complete Before Your Tantra Massage Session guide.

It contains important information about personal preparation, hygiene, health considerations, punctuality, what to avoid before the appointment and how to arrive prepared.

Begin by reading the Energetic Alignment and Ethics and Boundaries pages. Then contact May Gonzalez directly through WhatsApp.

In your message, briefly explain whether your primary concern is premature ejaculation, erectile difficulties or a combination of both.

Sending an enquiry does not automatically confirm an appointment. The booking is confirmed only after alignment, availability and payment requirements have been completed.

Before requesting a session, you are expected to read the complete Ethics and Boundaries page.

It explains consent, the professional framework, respectful behaviour, what may be included and what is not offered.

No. This is educational, somatic and professionally structured work. It is not a parlour service, escort service or arrangement for sexual gratification.

There are no “happy endings,” no mutual sexual touch and no service centred on ejaculation or sexual release.

Requests outside the published scope may result in the booking being declined or the session being ended.