By May Gonzalez
Effective Date: 08/12/2025
As a sacred sexuality priestess and somatic sexologist, I am dedicated to holding a safe, respectful, and transformative space for healing and self-discovery. Tantra therapy is not just a practice—it is a path of awakening. It requires trust, presence, and conscious intention. To honor the integrity of this work, I have learned the art of saying no—not as rejection, but as protection.
Saying no to a client, a request, or a dynamic that feels misaligned is not a dismissal of someone’s worth. It is a profound act of care for both the seeker and the sacred space we might otherwise enter out of unconscious patterning.
1. Non-Negotiable Boundaries:
Authentic Tantra Massage is a holistic practice designed to awaken and balance your sexual energy, promote emotional release, and deepen your connection to self. It is rooted in the principles of sacred sexuality and is offered as a professional therapeutic service.
a. Personal Inquiries (e.g., Age, Private Details):
Tantra is not a consumer service; it is a path of deep transformation. Seeking multiple therapists out of curiosity or quick stimulation or gratification, rather than sincere healing, can indicate unresolved patterns of sexual disconnection. This space is for AUTHENTIC EXPLORATION, not escapism.
b. Requesting Alternative Therapists or Comparing Services:
Tantra is not a transactional or entertainment-based experience. Seeking multiple therapists in search of stimulation rather than transformation can signal avoidance of deeper emotional and sexual imbalances. True tantric work is about cultivating self-mastery, not feeding unconscious patterns of addiction or escapism.
c. Disrespecting the Energy Exchange:
My offerings are the result of years of devotion, study, learning, and lived experience. Attempting to negotiate or undervalue this sacred work dishonours the healing potential it holds. Energy exchange is not just monetary; it reflects your commitment to your own growth.
d. Neglecting Self-Responsibility for Growth:
I provide extensive resources, articles, and tools to guide you toward unlocking your body’s full potential. Choosing not to engage with this knowledge and remaining in cycles of ignorance is a disservice to your own evolution. In this era of expanded consciousness, choosing not to learn is choosing to stay disconnected from your highest self.
e. Clarifying the Nature of Offerings:
There is absolutely no mutual touch or sexual services included in my work. No happy ending, self-gratification, sensual massage, or parlour-style services are part of my offerings. My Authentic Tantra teachings are a sacred practice rooted in healing, embodiment, and conscious awakening — never a space for sexual entertainment.
For the safety and integrity of the container, individuals who struggle with self-control, compulsive sexual behaviour, or difficulty respecting boundaries are not eligible for this kind of practice.
f. Ejaculation:
As part of Authentic Tantra Massage, ejaculation is not included. This practice works with semen retention to preserve life-force energy and support deeper healing.
The only exception is for individuals experiencing premature ejaculation, where release may be part of the therapeutic approach. Outside this specific condition, sessions do not involve ejaculation.
g. Erection:
Erections may naturally occur during the session. This is a normal physiological response to relaxation, breathwork, and energetic activation. However, the presence of an erection does not change the structure or intention of the session, which remains strictly therapeutic and non-sexual.
h. Nudity & Body-to-Body Work Policy:
Naked sessions, including Naked Sous Ritual or Body-to-Body experiences, are offered exclusively to regular clients who have demonstrated consistent respect for the sacred nature of this work. These experiences are not available for first-time clients and are granted solely at the practitioner’s discretion, based on energetic alignment, mutual trust, and ethical conduct.
i. Practitioner Attire:
May Gonzalez will be fully dressed in all sessions unless explicitly stated otherwise and aligned with advanced client pathways, as she mentions above in this section. Her attire always reflects professionalism, safety, and the sacred nature of this work.
Her clothing choices are intentionally selected to:
- Maintain clear energetic boundaries between practitioner and client.
- Support a sense of trust, grounded presence, and emotional safety.
- Honour the lineage of sacred sexuality, where the practitioner remains anchored, centered, and in service to the client’s healing.
- Uphold ethical standards within somatic and tantric work, ensuring no confusion about roles or intentions.
If a session pathway includes more intimate or advanced modalities, this will:
- Only occur with regular clients who have demonstrated deep respect and integrity.
- Be discussed clearly and consensually in advance.
- Be approached with a sacred, therapeutic intention rather than erotic or performative energy.
- Always remain within the practitioner’s full discretion and alignment.
2. Why I May Gonzalez Refuse to Work With a Client
I welcome those who are sincere, open, and willing to meet themselves fully. However, I reserve the right to lovingly say no when I feel that someone is not yet ready to meet the depth of this path. These are a few qualities that often indicate such misalignment:
- Arrogance: When someone comes seeking to prove rather than explore, defend rather than dissolve, or dominate rather than soften.
- Lack of Self-Knowledge: Without a basic awareness or curiosity about one’s inner world, tantra becomes a bypass, not a medicine.
- Prepotence: Control, entitlement, or superiority are incompatible with the humility required for sacred surrender.
- Spiritual Ego: Knowledge without embodiment is like fire without flame. If a person insists they “already know,” the work cannot breathe.
These dynamics do not make someone “wrong”—they simply signal that the timing, or the intention, is not yet in alignment.
3. Additional Reasons I May Decline Working With a Client
I. Energetic Incompatibility
Sometimes, there is no specific behavior—just a felt sense that our energies are not aligned. This intuitive knowing is sacred. If I sense that your presence may disrupt the safety of the container or that we are not meant to walk this path together, I honour that guidance. Healing is most potent when energetically compatible.
II. Unintegrated Sexual Trauma Paired with Resistance
Clients with unintegrated trauma are welcome. But when someone simultaneously carries deep wounding and resists support, feedback, or regulation practices, the process can become unsafe for both of us. Trauma healing requires consent, regulation, and co-regulation—not force or denial.
III. Misunderstanding of Tantra
If someone believes that Tantra is about sexual fulfillment, fantasy roleplay, or exaggerated eroticism, they may bring projections that pollute the sacredness of the space. I do not work with those seeking titillation, performance, or entertainment masked as spiritual work.
IV. Addictive Patterns or Escapism
If a client seeks continuous stimulation or comes repeatedly for sessions without integrating the teachings into daily life, they may be using Tantra as a new addiction rather than as a healing path. I serve those who are willing to pause, digest, and transform—not those who seek to bypass their pain.
V. Emotional Instability Without Grounding
Those experiencing current intense mental or emotional instability (such as acute psychosis, mania, or suicidal ideation) may need different professional support before entering somatic and energetic spaces. Tantra is powerful and should not be used as a substitute for psychiatric care when that is truly needed.
VI. Disrespect Toward the Feminine
Subtle or overt misogyny, entitlement toward women’s bodies, or a belief in “owning” the feminine are immediate signs of boundary violation. I do not work with those who cannot respect the womb, the yoni, or the feminine mystery with reverence.
VII. Over-Intellectualization and Control
Some individuals try to manage their healing process entirely through the mind. While intelligence is a gift, when used to block emotional expression or body-based awareness, it becomes a defense. If a client cannot drop from mind to body, the somatic experience becomes limited.
VIII. Lack of Commitment to the Process
Tantra is a path of devotion, not a quick fix. Clients who cancel frequently, don’t follow through with practices, or approach the work casually often lack the internal structure required for real change. Sacred transformation asks for consistency and reverence.
IX. Boundary Testing or Manipulation
If a potential client subtly tests boundaries, uses flirtation, or attempts to engage in power games, it signals a fundamental disrespect for the space. This is a place for healing, not seduction or ego play. I respond with clarity and disengage.
X. Spiritual Bypassing
Clients who hide behind “love and light,” spiritual concepts, or universal truths while avoiding their shadow or suppressing uncomfortable emotions may not yet be ready for embodied tantra. True healing requires meeting both light and dark.
4. Ethical Commitments:
- Consent and Clear Communication:
Mutual respect is paramount. All practices and techniques will be discussed and agreed upon beforehand, with ongoing communication to ensure comfort and safety. - Confidentiality and Privacy:
Your healing journey is sacred. All personal information and experiences shared during sessions are held in strict confidence. - Non-Sexualized Space of Healing:
While tantra embraces sexual energy as a source of life force, sessions are not a space for personal gratification. The focus is on healing, integration, and awakening to deeper layers of self-love and embodiment. - Mutual Accountability:
Transformation is a co-creative process. Both, the Tantric therapist (May Gonzalez) and client must show up with integrity, openness, and a willingness to do the inner work.
5. The Invitation:
True tantra invites you to step into your own power, to dissolve old patterns, and to reconnect with your body as a temple of wisdom. By honouring these boundaries and ethics, we create a container where profound healing, liberation, and self-realization can unfold.
If you are ready to embark on this journey with sincerity and reverence, I am here to guide you every step of the way.
With love and presence,
May Gonzalez
6. Contact Information
For questions or concerns about your Tantra Massage session, please contact:
Email: [email protected]
Website: https://maygonzalez.com/
7 .Learn More About Authentic Tantra Massage
To know more about Authentic Tantra Massage, clients are encouraged to download my free ebook, which offers a deeper understanding of the philosophy, practices, and sacred foundations behind this work.
This policy is designed to honour the sacred nature of Authentic Tantra Massage while ensuring mutual respect and professionalism. By booking a session, clients agree to abide by these terms.
