Healing your wounded inner child

There is a part of us that is an adult, the one that is here reading this article with patience to understand more, but there is also a childish part in all of us women, our wounded inner child.

This wounded inner child can emerge at specific moments, it is that part of us that wants everything yesterday, that has problems with authority, such as procrastination, constant self-criticism or the tendency to engage in self-destructive behaviours, such as substance abuse or harmful relationships. This can affect your self-confidence, relationships and even your career opportunities. This may include abusive relationships, emotional dependency, or the inability to set healthy boundaries. Recognizing these repetitive patterns is an essential step towards healing your inner child and building healthier relationships.

A wounded inner child often holds deep, unprocessed emotions. This can lead to difficulties expressing feelings in a healthy way and can result in unexpected emotional outbursts or, conversely, repression of emotions. Learning to connect with your inner child and give voice to these emotions is an essential part of the healing process.

Who were the first authorities in our lives? Mom and dad.

Our wounded inner child carries many pains and experiences that have not been fully attended to, regardless of how good or bad it was, or our parents were.

When this pain with these authorities manifests itself in our adult lives, you may have difficulty setting limits, saying no, having difficulty trusting people, because you mirror on others the pain and wounds that still exist with your parents.

Imagine you arriving at a new workplace and they start bullying you, but at that moment you feel unable to defend yourself and set limits or you have difficulty trusting men, trusting other women, being in the presence of other people. or you start to feel abandoned and rejected by other people who don’t owe you anything, these signs are signs that the pain of your wounded inner child is still present.

And although we may be mature in some areas of life, there are others that we are not yet and these immature areas will begin to manifest themselves when we begin the process of healing our emotional wounds, so be close more than never, from your inner child and your inner teenager, because they will appear, be sure of that, and it’s ok, the important thing is that you understand that your wounded inner child and your teenager are part of your story, but they are in the backseat of the car, and the person driving that car is the current version of you, the adult you, and she is the one who will put order in the house.

Now that we all occupy a place in life, in the family, in relationships, at work and often because of this problem with authority, we do not occupy this place, and when we do not occupy this place that is rightfully ours we weaken ourselves. and we get sick.

How many times do we judge our parents as bad, inadequate, incompetent, and take the place of our fathers’ fathers, how many times do we take the place of our brothers’ and sisters’ mothers, our boyfriends’ and husbands’ mothers, how many times, again for problem with authority we leave the place of student, of employee, we are out of our place in some area of life, other areas compensate, and the mess sets in, in health, in relationships, in professional life.

When the desire to leave your place as a daughter, sister, girlfriend, wife, student, employee comes within you, ask yourself, who is talking about me? It is the adult woman or the injured inner child and identifying who is speaking within us, whether it is our adult side or our injured inner child, helps us rediscover our place in life.

Living is not about having control, reason, explanation for everything, but about being at peace and in a flow of life, allowing yourself not to know all the answers and opening yourself up to new experiences is an act of humility, it is trusting, if the life put that person in the place to be my mother, my father, my boss, my teacher, that person somehow has the right to occupy that place, if we are suspicious and traumatized, fear governs the trauma of our actions and it prevents us from being touched by the people who come to us and it is necessary for you to open your heart, because you arrived here very hurt and so that I can help you heal your emotional wounds that made you sick, I need you to allow me to do this .

There’s no point in me giving you everything you need if you don’t listen, don’t disarm, don’t open your heart to me and to this entire incredible process, remember, I’m not here to judge you, but to show you , as well as the feminine, has something to offer for your life and for your health and for your sexuality.

We are on this journey hand in hand together and you don’t need to be afraid to look at your pain because many other women have gone through this path and I can assure you because I have gone through it too, it is liberating, there is a childish part in absolutely all of us us, and at times this childish part can emerge, and this part that wants everything for yesterday, that wants everything in its own way, in its own time and when we come with these pains, with the first authorities and references of our lives to We end up projecting this onto the people who cross our paths, boyfriends, teachers, bosses, and you can say to me like “wow, my parents were wonderful”, I’ll tell you one thing: that no matter how incredible they were, your child Inner wounds can have wounds with them, we occupy our place in the family, we are daughters of our mothers, our fathers, we have a place in our relationships, we have a place in our work and when we try to get out of our place, in an arrogant posture, we lose strength, our belly gets sick, our sexuality doesn’t flow, everything gets stuck in our lives, when we are out of our place in life we ​​get sick, we have difficulty cultivating relationships that bring us more life, we find affinity with people who are also out of place and those relationships full of emotional pain come, when we are out of our place, abundance has no space in our life, because it only exists for those who are aligned with the life, when we are out of place we have no life, no health, in which part of your life are you out of place? It is probably in this area of ​​your life that your biggest blocks and traumas lie, as long as you are occupying places that are not yours, your life will not flow.